Our society is made up of diverse cultures and religions, each with its own special funeral customs. In this blog, we take a closer look at these different traditions and rituals to gain a better understanding and appreciation of their significance.
Māori – Tangihanga
A tangi is often held at a marae, where the deceased is from or has connections to. Manuhiri (visitors) are called onto the marae and are not to set foot before being welcomed on.
A Tangi is usually held over the course of three days to mourn the passing of a loved one. This is filled with singing waiata (songs), sharing stories, and lots of kai (food). It is customary for someone to always be by the side of the deceased so that they’re never alone.
The body is laid to rest on the third or final day, in the urupā (cemetery). The urupā is a tapu (sacred) place, where many are laid to rest. This is why it is always important to wash your hands when exiting.
Samoan
Samoans believe in following Fa’a Samoa which means “the Samoan Way.” Traditionally, during mourning, families bring gifts, money, and food as a sign of respect.
A Samoan funeral service is typically held at a church, hall, or home. Typically held over a period of three days or more, depending on the family.
It is typically appropriate for men to wear Samoan funeral attire including an ie faitaga (lavalava), and a dress shirt. For women, a pulu tasi (Samoan dress) is worn.
Tongan
Tongans mourn as a community. Many families pay their respects by dropping off gifts, mats, and money over the course of multiple days. Gifts are to be placed before the fahu, the oldest daughter of the oldest living generation. In return, the family of the deceased provides food.
Tongan funerals are often held at churches or funeral homes, where multiple people sing hymns and share stories. It is customary for Tongans to wear ta’ovala (a woven mat).
Funerals can vary in their traditions depending on family customs, cultural practices, and iwi. Nevertheless, displaying compassion, and adhering to the cultural traditions of mourning families is a way to demonstrate respect.
