Everyone Grieves Differently
Grief is our natural response to loss. It’s like our fingerprints: everyone is unique in the way they experience and express their grief. Similarly, each loss is different, just like the different fingers of your hands. That means there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
For example, men and women often show their grief in different ways. This can sometimes make it hard for them to understand or support each other. People of different ages and cultures have different ways of grieving as well. While there are many ideas out there for how to deal with grief, it’s important to find your own process.
How long does it take?
Grief is more than a series of stages to go through. As time goes by, you find ways to live with your loss rather than getting over it. If the loss of a loved one is a big loss for you, you might find it hard for a long time. However, it won’t always feel as bad as it does in the first weeks and months after the death. It is actually normal to feel affected by your loss from time to time for the rest of your life. For example, when you are reminded by a song or anniversary, or when you experience another loss in your life.
Most people find there are good days and bad days at first, but gradually the loss gets easier to manage. Try to be patient with yourself and others. Remember, there is no right or wrong answer for how to deal with grief, as each person has their own journey.